Are the two of you on the verge of a breakup, or has the excitement gone? You can rekindle the spark in your relationship if you are both willing to work at it. Often, stress, outside pressures, and daily routine create the problems. Following are nine ways to rekindle your relationship.
Rekindle your relationship by talking to each other. Spend quality time over dinner or drinks without the distractions of television, children, or cell phones. State your concerns, honestly. Do not hide your feelings. Listen without judgment. Really hear what your partner is saying. Bad feelings from the past can ruin today’s rapport. Let them go permanently.
Rekindle your relationship with gifts or cards. These need not be expensive, but they must be thoughtful. She may appreciate a single flower, given with love. He may welcome a special meal, prepared with love. A greeting card, given for no reason, may be romantic or humorous.
Rekindle your relationship with romance and laughter. Do you write poetry? Do you write music? If not, then just write a note. Tell her what the relationship means to you. Tell him how important he is in your life. Funny movies or jokes will make you both laugh and put you both in better moods. Do fun things together and enjoy each other at the same time.
Rekindle your relationship with thoughtfulness. Treat her like a lady. In public, show respect for him. You may appreciate your partner, but does she know it? Does he feel trusted?
Rekindle your relationship by dating. Plan a date night. Do something you used to do. Have fun together. These dates do not have to be expensive. A walk on the beach or a picnic in the woods can be very romantic. Sit together and watch the stars.
Rekindle your relationship by taking care of yourself. Do you still get dressed up for him? Do you use aftershave for her? Spend some time on grooming before an evening out, just as you used to do.
Rekindle your relationship by concentrating on your partner’s good points. No one is perfect. Ignore his too loud voice and her bad hairdo and find the good features.
Rekindle your relationship by planning a project or a future together. When you work together toward a common goal, you will also share time and interests.
Rekindle your relationship by letting down your guard and showing your true self. If you present an image of the person you think your partner wants, then your partner never has the opportunity to get to know the real you.
Your relationship may be suffering because a job, class, or family member is demanding extra attention. Your partner may simply be preoccupied. If the relationship is simply suffering from staleness, these suggestions may rekindle it. If, however, none of your attempts to rekindle the relationship seem to be helping, it may be time to get some outside help. A professional counselor or a trusted clergyman may be needed to help you learn to communicate again.