Authored by Thea Tan in Divorce
Published on 01-10-2009
A great life awaits you after having gone through a divorce. You can move on and look forward to a promising future while starting over and hoping to make things better. You may choose get a new job, or even begin dating again. The end of your marriage does not have to be the end of everything. Though you may find it hard to move on and let go of the past, you will eventually realize that plenty of opportunities await you if you open up yourself once more.
If after the divorce you find yourself free from financial responsibilities such as mortgage and car payments, it may be a good time for you to relocate. It does not necessarily mean going out of the country. Moving to another state is just as good. You may choose to buy new property or just rent a place that would be your refuge. Relocating will give you the opportunity to start over, however you want. You can start strategizing how to get yourself back in action, easier than you ever thought.
When you finally decide to move out, you may want to find a new job as well. Find a job that will keep you busy because you no longer have to spend time with your spouse. . You may now accept a job that you might have previously refused because of obligations to your family. What is important is that you choose a job you like.
A divorce may leave you feeling knocked out, exasperated at having to start from scratch. Your perspectives will change; your views on life will not be the same. Some turn to excessive eating, nicotine, alcohol and illicit drugs to escape depression. Do not allow yourself to fall into any of these. Instead, direct yourself to a positive outlook. Set new goals for yourself. Some people actually find it easier to leave everything behind than to try to deal with things one day at a time.
Now is the perfect time to do the things you have always wanted to; nothing and no one will hold you back. You no longer have to please anybody else, except perhaps, yourself.
After a divorce, you will be completely independent. This may be either good or frightening to you. If the thought of sudden complete independence and solitude makes you uncomfortable, find ways of easing your transition to a new life. Initially, choose to live with some friends, take a more relaxed job, or rent an apartment instead of buying a new house. Once you have fully immersed yourself into this whole new life, you may find it easier to take on commitments once again.