It is usually nerve-wracking for both boys and girls, regardless of who asks who out, but first dates are meant to be fun, a bit awkward, and for some, really memorable. While there are no set rules on how to act on when somebody asks you out for the first time, here are some things you can do to ease away the first-date jitters.
Start by planning the date. It always a good idea to agree to do fun and non-awkward things like watching a movie, going bowling, watching a concert, or hanging out at the mall. These activities usually require a venue with lots of people, thus making it more comfortable for both parties to be themselves. These things are also great date “savers” in case of dull moments or bouts of silence between conversations happen.
Next is planning to what to wear. This applies not only to ladies but the gentlemen as well. Don’t wear anything that you aren’t comfortable in or feel weird wearing. The key is to feel great—so wear the things that flatter your figure and allow you to move around with ease. Also dress appropriately for whatever the date calls for: outdoor activities, movies, sports, etc.
The most common advice that anyone can give to people going on their first date is to just be themselves. After all, the goal of the date is to get to know each other and see if there is any possibility of romance or even friendship. Two people usually find themselves attracted to each other if they have great personalities or interesting people, hence, it is really a good idea to talk about hobbies, interests, and other things that a person is into. Pretending to be someone else may only impress the person on the first date, but once that person finds out that it’s all for show, he or she might actually be put off by the fact that someone has to lie to become interesting. People always appreciate honesty, so it’s ok to be yourself.
During the date, keep in mind to watch your manners even if the other party is being rude, unkind, or cold. For gentlemen, most ladies find it attractive when they open doors and pull out chairs for them. No matter how bad the date is, always be the polite and calm one. It shows maturity and civility. If the date is going badly, you can always excuse yourself and cut the date short instead of being rude and ruining each other’s night too.
Lastly, remember to be gracious. The other person has made time to go out and meet you, so be welcoming and appreciative of his or her efforts, even if he or she doesn’t turn out to be your type. Say thank you at the end of the date. If you don’t’ feel comfortable about giving a kiss or a hug, a simple handshake will do. Yes, it does sound awkward, but first dates are meant to be like that, but it doesn’t mean it shouldn’t be fun.